Ah, wedding competition. The ever present rush to be the first to marry, to be the first to do a specific decor style, to be better than your friend, enemy, sister, cousin, or even that girl on Facebook you barely talk to. Why do we do it? Why do we get caught up with the itty bitty details in order to be the best? Well….it’s just what we do! Humans are competitive, it’s biological. Check out my previous on competition here to understand why we do what we do.
ft’s pretty ridiculous how we try to “one up” the next bride. It’s pretty pathetic too. And you know what? You ruin the wedding experience when you get caught up in the competition – not only for yourself, but your SO, your friends, and your guests. At the end of the day your guests are going to be the ones who wished you’d toned it down a bit, for your own sake.
There’s someone on my Facebook page that has posted wedding after wedding related statuses all to “one up” the other Facebook friend who just had her nuptials. I watched in horror as the countdown trackers came in, the statuses got meaner (“my wedding will be better than everyone else’s”), and the endless wedding updates via photos were published.
Knowing how competitive this girl is. I knew she was engaging in “Wedding Competition” with someone that already had their happy day (and probably ignores her just as much as the rest of us).
Let’s not be this girl. We should embrace our own plans and stop the wedding competition. Here are a few ways to do so:
Stop Looking At Wedding Magazines
Most of these weddings are THOUSANDS of $$$. Don’t even get me started on wedding costs. If six figures isn’t your budget then please put down The Knot after 1 or 2 magazines. It’s ok the get inspiration – but once you start becoming envious of these brides, it’s time to put the magazines down. Plan your wedding to your dreams and desires – not someone else’s.
Stop Browsing Pinterest
This is healthy to an extent. Just keep it minimum. Most of these pins aren’t helping you stay away from the wedding envy.
Stop Browsing Facebook
Don’t browse wedding photos of on Facebook if you know you are a competitive person. This will only make things worse when you find out “so and so” had a destination wedding you’ve always dreamed of. Look at the photos and like them if you truly are happy for this person. If not, delete, remove from newsfeed, or whatever you have to do to curb your envy.
Support Other Brides
Ladies, don’t be passive-aggressive with you congratulations to other brides. You are all on a stressful and long road to planning. Whether or not they got engaged right before your wedding or had their wedding first, you should be genuinely happy with your well wishes. It is not a competition. Stop the envy at it’s tracks.
Have you ever suffered from wedding envy and wedding competition? Tell me how you stopped it! Leave a comment below!