5 Ways To Find Your Personal Style

Style isn’t something we are born with. In fact, I don’t even remember being stylish throughout my teenage years. You can say my style was Hollister meets Punk.


Personal style is ever changing and will always be slightly different as we grow and as trends come and go. But finding a personal style to begin with is tricky. There’s no perfect formula and no perfect inspirational guide on your perfect style.

You Can Find Your Style in 5 Easy Steps

But you need to have an open mind. You need to accept yourself, your interests, and what you are naturally drawn to. Any fashionista can give you the steps, but you need to be open to adapting them and being honest with yourself.

I didn’t know what my personal style was “categorized” as for a long time. And I still don’t think it needs to be in a category. But at least now I know where to look for inspiration, how to describe my own style, and how to shop for my style.


Fashions fade, style is eternal – Yves Saint Laurent


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Step 1: Analyze Trends

Don’t go out and buy the “trendy” things just yet. Just because culottes are trying to happen doesn’t mean they should happen to you.

Here’s the thing: trends come and go and you need to know why you are attracted to certain trends here and now.

Do you like them because they are trendy? Or because you really like the style? Think about it and analyze the trends you see. Write down what you like and don’t like.


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Step 2: Colors

Your personal style has a lot to do with what colors you are attracted to and what works best for your skin tone and hair color. Blue and white go well with nautical looks. Black goes well with modern and elegant looks.

Of course, colors won’t make a huge impact on what styles you like, but it will help you narrow down what works on you and what doesn’t. If you’re not a yellow girl (I cannot wear yellow, hate the color) then don’t feel like you need to get something in yellow.

I have a lot of contrast colors that go well with my pale skin: black, red, green, and blue. I wear jewel tones because my eyes and hair color match well with them.

Ask friends or family members to analyze colors on you and see what stands out. What do you like? What don’t you like? Write it down!


Step 3: Inspiration

Have you ever put together a Pinterest board about all your favorite things? You should.

I personally love some vintage inspiration. I have a secret board on Pinterest dedicated to vintage styles and colors I love. Whenever I’m in a personal style rut, I look to things that inspire me.

You can get inspired by anything: paintings, books, tv shows, movies, nature, architecture. Be open and be open to the fact that style goes beyond fashion.


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Step 4: Lifestyle

Think about your lifestyle. Are you up on your feet all day and running errands? Maybe a business casual or formal look isn’t the best choice for your lifestyle.

We cannot sacrifice our comfort for style. Personal style needs to be personal. Make sure you are not a slave to your own fashion choices.

I personally love an easy to put together yet classic personal style: I opt in for flowy yet chic items. For everyday wear I go for black skinny jeans and a cozy tank/cardigan combo. If I want to be a little classic I pair it with heels or oxfords. If I’m on the go I just put on plain sneakers.

Viola! My personal style can be easily changed!


Step 5: Self Reflection

What are your best physical and emotional features? You should be channeling them! Those qualities are what make you unique. Take a couple of minutes to answer these questions before determining your personal style:

  1. What are my best physical qualities?
  2. How can I play those up through color and style?
  3. What are my best emotional qualities?
  4. How do those qualities translate in certain styles (white & bright colors: happy, bubbly. Dark colors: sophisticated, moody – sometimes a great quality in fashion!)
  5. What do I feel like emulating? Which of my clothes achieve this energy and emotion?

Honestly, sometimes I think in character some days. One day I can be a wild child bohemian and the other day I can channel Chanel. But my personal style is just that – personal. I know that I like those certain looks and I shop for them because I can pick and choose which day I’ll switch up my style!


So what’s your personal style like? How did you find it? Share it with me in the comments below and maybe someone else will get some inspiration from your journey! 

xo Mariam


Behind The Blog

The Petite Bijou is an online destination featuring wholesome yet sophisticated living and styling tips for women. The site is run by the family and friends of survivor, lifestyle influencer, and writer Mariam, who passed away in the summer of 2020.  Mariam also hosted The Bijou Show, a self help podcast.

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  1. Lauren B. wrote:

    Great post love! I so agree with you about the trends! I can’t wait to try some of these steps. xx, Lo

    Posted 4.2.16 Reply
    • Mariam wrote:

      Thank you so much, Lauren! Thank you for stopping by!

      Posted 4.4.16 Reply
  2. Ruthie wrote:

    So many truths here!! This line resonated with me so much… “You can get inspired by anything: paintings, books, tv shows, movies, nature, architecture. Be open and be open to the fact that style goes beyond fashion.” Love your blog babe!

    Posted 4.1.16 Reply
    • Mariam wrote:

      Thank you for stopping by Ruthie, I am so glad you connect with me as well on this!

      Posted 4.4.16 Reply
  3. Emily wrote:

    I love all of these suggestions!! I feel like the color one resonate with me personally. You have such a unique and interesting personal style, you’re such an inspiration!

    xoxo Emily

    Posted 3.31.16 Reply
    • Mariam wrote:

      Thank you, Emily! I think your color choices are always so important in personality in style!

      Posted 4.4.16 Reply
  4. Kristin wrote:

    I love how you seem to have totally mastered your personal style & own it! Your confidence is an inspiration to me!!!


    Posted 3.31.16 Reply
    • Mariam wrote:

      Hello Kristen,

      Thank you so much! I think to the key to feeling confident in your style is just really embracing it! Im quirky, my style is ever changing and that’s actually my style. I love so many things so why should I hide them, right?

      Best, Mariam

      Posted 3.31.16 Reply
  5. What a great post, I wear workout clothes all day since I am a personal trainer and end up wearing jeans and t-shirts a lot but after reading this post I see that finding a personal style isn’t all that scary! Maybe I should embrace my style a bit more and play around 🙂 Thanks for sharing xo C

    Posted 3.30.16 Reply
    • Mariam wrote:

      Thanks Courtney! It’s definitely not scary and if you feel comfortable then nothing else maters!


      Posted 3.31.16 Reply
  6. Gail wrote:

    Great post Mariam. I would say that my style is simple yet chic. I like to play with colors, especially lately, and move away from black. My style is ever-evolving but I tend to stick to a particular look which is most of all comfortable.

    Posted 3.30.16 Reply
    • Mariam wrote:

      Thank you, Gail! I love your style. Black is a staple in my closet but I get inspired by others wearing colorful things!

      Best, Mariam

      Posted 3.31.16 Reply
  7. This is a great post Mariam! I find my style is feminine and totally California girl but is definitely inspired by how I’m feeling each particular day. Style is more than clothes, it’s our personality and really everything about us. Such a great post on helping people find their style!!

    Posted 3.30.16 Reply
    • Mariam wrote:

      Thank you, Roselyn! I love your personal style and I think it’s very unique!


      Posted 3.31.16 Reply