I can’t be bothered to write 27 things I’ve learned (who can think of 27 new lessons about life?!?), so I’m changing things up and writing 10 things I’ve learned before turning 27 today.
Lessons by 27
1. That I am not as accepting about change as I would like to be. I wish I was looking forward to this birthday, but for the first time in my life, I’m not excited about being older. Maybe aging isn’t something I’ve quite thought through yet.
2. There’s power in positive thinking. Somehow thinking more positively affects our bodies more than we know. Every time I tell myself “it’s going to be ok” it usually always is. If I keep stressing about something, it just gets worse. Woo woo thinking isn’t for me, but there’s some truth to it somehow.
3. All my friends have moved on, and I’m ok with it. They’ve left cross country, to different countries, or have stopped keeping up their end of being a good friend – and I’m not mad or bitter about it. I feel much better knowing I tried and if it’s time to let people go, then let them.
4. I just graduated and my Master’s Degree was probably not the best financial idea. I’ll be the first to admit that I’m not getting anywhere with having a Master’s degree. I’ve lost a lot of entry level jobs to people this year that have no degree but a lot of experience. If I was healthier, I’d probably would have been working full time, but my health decided otherwise and so I entered a degree program to get one step ahead….well, it still didn’t make a difference in the corporate job market. BUT what did help, I figured out that I didn’t want any part of that life anyways! So this year, I began to take my own business more seriously and can happily say, I’d rather be my own boss and use my degree to help build my dream, not someone else’s.
Take that jobs. Take that…
5. You can’t be scared to try new things. So many times this past year, I’ve been too scared to do something new, and it’s time to stop, because the experiences have all been amazing!
6. You are your only competition. Comparison is the game fools play. The only competition you should be having is with yourself. I’ve watched so many people in my life become discouraged about competition in their field. I can personally count on both hands the number of people I know who got overwhelmed with the “competition” and quit all together. You have to pivot if things are not working out, but don’t ever give up.
7. Give credit where credit is due and celebrate together. I’ve been saying “thank you” and “congratulations” to a lot more people this year. I’ve found that when others tell you good news, they want to most often share their joy. We should indulge people in this, not ignore them or get jealous.
8. Disconnecting and spending time with community is what’s going to move us forward and keep us all mentally healthy (& physically healthy too). With the world being what it is, we must take every precaution to guard our thoughts and body. Social media and Television may be enjoyable, but they are not real life. Real life happens out there – beyond our screens. Community and spending time with others has become really important to me this past year.
Even though being on top of “Instagram” is my job, I don’t ever do it because I want to. To me, social media is a chore. I much prefer writing on my computer, emailing, or talking to people face to face. This year I decided to stop hiding behind a screen all day. I take more walks now, spend time outside and with loved ones, and do physical activities that promote a healthy body and healthy mind.
9. Mental health is just as important as physical health. The number of panic attacks I’ve had this year is significantly less than last year. All of them were caused by circumstances not in my control, but I’ve learned to slowly disengage in the things causing me anxiety. Ultimately, a move very far away from Chicago should help relieve some of these issues.
10. I still want the same goals. Really happy to say that my goals from last year haven’t changed a bit! That means I’m in the right place and am not discouraged easily. In 2019 I will reach those goals and beyond.
Thank you for all the birthday wishes on social media! And thank you for being a reader of The Petite Bijou!