If you asked me a few months ago if I ever thought I would be making friends online because of blogging, I would have said no.
First off – starting a blog was like mind-blowing to me. Never did I think I would want to start a blog or even aspire to become one of the best lifestyle blogs. But now I do, so hey! Cheers!
Secondly, I’ve had some terribly awkward experiences with meeting other bloggers or trying to become friends online. How awkward?
Imagine walking into a room of people who are glued to their phone. After you’ve introduced yourself to as many people as possible you sit there and watch them snap away and then there’s this awkward silence as everyone just plays with their phone. You leave an hour later, pretty sick and tired of seeing phones.
Or imagine thinking you’ve really found a great blogger buddy and you finally get a chance to get to know them better and it turns out horribly wrong. I’m talking: stealing your content word for word, and idea for idea. Yeah… not cool
So when I met two blogger friends for the first time last weekend, I was incredibly moved to write this post. Having blogger friends that really get you isn’t easy. But I want you to have friends like these!
Meet Emily (in front of me) and Devinne (behind me)
You Need People That Understand What Blogging Means To You
When I first started blogging, I told no one. And seeing as I had more acquaintances and work colleagues than I have friends, I didn’t really mind not telling anyone. But then it got super serious halfway through the year. I started gaining a large Instagram presence, people liked my funny tweets, and I was suddenly working with brands. The blogging breakthrough happened out of no where and I really appreciated it. My blogging adventures have opened up whole new doors and opportunities that I wouldn’t have otherwise. By the time it came to “announce” my blog to family and friends, everyone was like “Wow…ok, that’s different”.
It seems like a lot of bloggers friends and family don’t really understand what they do, and that’s ok. So it’s really nice to meet other bloggers that get it. They get the whole “no one to take my photos” problem. They understand the blogger talk like – seo, instagram algorithms, and affiliate marketing. Something a lot of our colleagues and acquaintances know very little about. The blogging world is lonely when you literally know no one that gets it.
It’s Nice Having Someone To Be Weird With
I don’t know about you, but the type of friends I want are the ones I can be completely 100% myself with – the ones that appreciate and understand my little quirks and many passions. Not just ones that tolerate it.
Yes, my blog is pretty chic and feminine – and so am I. But what you don’t really get to see is the everyday person behind the blog. When I’m not blogging I am:
- A graduate student in Marketing
- Collecting and repairing medical antiques (my house is literally a museum)
- Reading 17th century manuscripts on medicine and English history
- Doing yoga and ballet
- Singing to myself like 99% of the time
- Visiting many cultural attractions like museums and libraries
- Experimenting with photography and darker moods and outfits
- Running an Instagram account for my cats
- Binge watching Doctor Who & British mysteries
- Running my own social media marketing and VA business
- Walking – long, long, long walks around the city
I don’t really go shopping regularly, read fashion magazines, watch regular TV, eat macaroons, or go cafe hopping. I own maybe like 5 pairs of shoes, 2 different coats, and like 1 nice designer purse. I’m not really a typical fashion blogger (whatever that means) and I would honestly rather bake cookies and be with my cat then go out and take pictures.
I’m a weird geeky chic introvert and I finally found two blogger gals that get it. When I first started talking to Devinne and Emily, I knew they were the type of gals that had their own passions too and also understood that having many passions, quirks, and interests is what makes us unique.
Blogger Friends Support Each Other
Not only are all the other benefits I mentioned really important but so is the fact that blogger friends support each other. One of my favorite blogger friends is Amanda from Wet Hair Don’t Care. We met a year ago and started having coffee with each other regularly since we both spend a lot of time downtown. When I was feeling really down and needed support, Amanda is always there. We regularly stay in touch and support one another when we can’t meet up.
The same goes for Devinne and Emily, who always leave lovely comments on my instagram and blog. The most favorite part of my day is when I can log on and head over to their accounts to give some love back! And it’s all done out of pure blogger love and appreciation – not because we feel like we need to just for the sake of engagement. Each of these ladies has an amazing twist on blogging and when we get into conversations it’s like our own little bubble of joy and support. I love it!
Our Blogger Photo Shoot
Devinne, Emily, and I have been taking about getting together for a while now. And it was really great that we were all finally free on the weekend to get together. Emily and I traveled from Chicago to meet Devinne in Oak Park, the most magical little village ever. We took our photos at a beautiful Tudor style mansion. I was super excited to meet these lovely ladies and our photos turned out great!
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Do your family and friends understand and support your blogging journey? Who is your best blogging buddy? Leave a comment below and let’s chat!
A big thank you to Devinne and Emily for these amazing photos!