Why Taking Breaks Matter More Than Instant Success


The Petite Bijou has been on break for over 2 months and is back in full swing.

A few of my readers and Instagram followers reached out to me asking where the heck I went and why I wasn’t posting as frequently anymore. And although I wish I could say “lounging somewhere in the tropics” but that wasn’t the case.

I was burnt out from my daily responsibilities and overworked in graduate school. In the month of January alone I had 3 group projects, redesigning and reworking my business, and had gotten ill again (yay chronic illness)

My drive to move forward to success in my business and blog despite all the setbacks is a mix of ambition and need. I am naturally someone that loves to challenge myself and set high expectations. But I also know that I need to achieve the goals I have in order to give myself and my family the lifestyle I need – one of peace, tranquility, and abundance.

During my two month break from blogging, I tried very hard NOT to move forward – which seems contradictory to what I just said if I really want to be successful, doesn’t it?


But here’s the thing,…breaks actually move you forward


There are several things that happen when you take a long break and focus on yourself. You get perspective, energy, and confidence.


Perspective Is Key


The first part of any good break from anything is gaining perspective – which is just another fancy word for insight. The right perspective can shed light on things that matter to you the most and shape how you’ll tackle things in the future.

The best “ah ha” moments came to me when I was sitting on the bus, taking the train, or people watching at cafes. Carrying around a journal and a pen to capture all those thoughts down is super handy.


Gain Your Strength, Re-Energize Your Mind, Body, & Soul


The second part of my “break” regimen was to gain my strength back and re-energize. This step might be different for everyone, but I felt it was important to include, especially for anyone that has chronic illnesses.

Gaining your strength and re-energizing could be both a literally and figurative thing. Because I got so ill, I needed to do the physical strength aspect first and then mentally prepare myself to start over.

Each morning, I would do restorative yoga, drink protein shakes, and then do a very light cardio workout before beginning the rest of my day. At night, I would journal and detox with ginger and lemon tea. This really helped me not only feel good, but feel ready to tackle on all the projects I planned out in my journal.


Restore Confidence


The last part of my break was to restore my confidence – not only for myself, but for my business and blog. For too long I was paying too much attention to what other people were doing around me. I knew I had an unhealthy obsession with checking Instagram, other blogs, and constantly tweaking my business to “out do” what I had done before.

What I really needed was a confidence booster.

I booked a call with my business coach and spent 3 hours breaking down my mind blocks and reworking my frameworks for my business and blog going forward. The one important thing she taught me was:


“NO ONE can do what you do. Your tribe recognizes you are unique and different – and that’s what sets up apart from everyone else”


After talking to her that one cold and snowy day in January, I knew that my strengths had been obvious from the very beginning, I just wasn’t using them!

So I set a plan in action and here I am today, writing my first blog post in over 2 months, deleting distractions, and re-energized to move forward with my goals and dreams. Taking a 2 month break was THE BEST thing I’ve ever done – not only for my self, but also for my business.


Do you feel like you need a break?

Have you considered taking a break from your blog, business, or just from your everyday troubles? How would you spend a day free from all of your troubles? Visualize it and tell us in the comments below!


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  1. Molly Clifton wrote:

    This is SO good! I am all for this and for you. Thank you for sharing your heart with the world and showing what matters most. I’m glad you were able to take some time for yourself and are feeling energized to be back at this blogging thing! You are amazing!

    keep smiling!
    molly | http://www.stylemismolly.com

    Posted 3.5.17 Reply
  2. Nicole wrote:

    So glad to hear that you’ve had a good break and are now REJUVENATED and refreshed. Taking a break is such a valuable thing. I sometimes take mini breaks- though I haven’t really been blogging long enough to have gotten burnt out yet.
    The Artyologist

    Posted 3.4.17 Reply
    • Nicole wrote:

      Sorry- I don’t know why it is in all caps on rejuvenated 🙂 I wasn’t trying to yell at you! haha.

      Posted 3.4.17 Reply
  3. Sara wrote:

    Yes!! I took an unplanned for break from my blog and business for 2 months when I fell ill. While the illness was horrible, the break was the best thing!

    Posted 3.3.17 Reply

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